I've debated blogging about Ian's school year. He loves school and as a typical boy he likes recess, gym, music, and art. He is a boys boy. I'm not making any excuses because I know my son. I know he is wiggly and can be loud (he is my son after all), but he is also kind, smart and knowledgeable about sharks (a great life skill).
In my eyes, he has had a rough start. He has been in the quiet room too many times (my opinion) for a kindergartner. He has been saying, "I don't know what's wrong with me?" a lot. When we talk about it, he always says he is doing things "wrong". I have spend many minutes assuring that how he is doing it is not wrong, just different.
I'm the one with the problem. I am a teacher, a special ed. teacher, so I know when kids are struggling they need help. I'm the one who provides the help....
A couple of days ago, we got a letter saying that he would be in a reading group 2-3 times a week for 30 minutes to help him with literacy skills - naming letters, matching letters and sounds and other literacy "stuff". This is not news to me. I knew that he wasn't ready for that part of kindergarten, but it makes me sad. I didn't think he was that far behind....
I have sat "on the other side of the table" for many years talking with parents regarding the areas of need for their child need. It is so different being the parent, especially when no one has talked to you. When all of the information you have received came in a letter.
How do I become the advocate for my child that I coach other parents to be for their child or that I do for their children?
I know that Ian needs this. I have to try not to feel guilty that I didn't "teach" him enough before he started school. And maybe that's it. I feel guilty for not spending the time on those skills with him. It will get better. He is a smart resilient kid.